Potty Training Update

Finally some success! After months of remaining at a standstill, Anna is now almost fully potty trained, and it only took two weeks. Yaayyy  to her and a big sigh of relief for me. Touchwood and anti-jinx.

We started the day after her birthday. Mummy is here and with Anna the whole day and that did the trick. We just removed her diapers for the entire duration of her waking hours. The pee training was first and there were almost no accidents at all. In the beginning she would say she had to go far more frequently than she actually had to. She would pee maybe only 1 time out of 4. But now she’s mostly accurate. We always clap and cheer for her when she goes in the potty and she gets to watch a few videos on the iPad.

Poo training was a bit difficult. She would hold it in and not go at all the whole day. We finally left her in her diaper in the mornings when she woke up, and she would go in that. Finally, two days ago she pooed in her potty and has being doing so since then.

Now the problem is that when we go out, she doesn’t want to pee in her diaper and gets upset. We still have to figure this one out. I am not comfortable taking her to public toilets (mostly not very clean) yet and in any case she’s not able to balance on the adult potty and needs the extra seat. I don’t see us carrying it around everywhere and am not able to think of an alternative.

Next on the agenda will be going to play school without diapers once it opens in June and then nap time and night time training.

This is such a big milestone and it turned out to be so much easier than I expected. Mumma is so proud of you, baby. You’re becoming such a big girl. It’s bittersweet each time you achieve a milestone. Most of me is happy and proud but a small part of me wants to hold on to your babyness for a little longer. You’re a big kid now!

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I’m late, I’m late, I’m late.

Anna turned TWO years old on Tuesday, and I am a full 3 days late in posting about it.

Happy Birthday Baby! May you always be healthy, wealthy and wise. May you live long and live happy.

This is what I posted on Facebook the day after her birthday  –                                             The first six weeks were tougher than I ever imagined. The first six months went by slowly. At the end of the first year, I was just happy to have survived.
Now another year has gone by. I just want time to slow down, to give me more time with my baby, let me enjoy the baby hugs and kisses and cuddles, the baby voice with the most adorable lisp.
Happy 2nd Birthday Anna!

The party was great. I was vacillating between just having a normal lunch out with family like we do for our birthdays or having a party at home for her ‘friends’. I kept thinking she’s too small to really enjoy a party with friends and plus the effort was scaring me off. What tilted the decision was the fact that Mummy was arriving a couple of days before her birthday. With mom here I can handle any party! Anyway we decided to have the party at home and she really did enjoy herself. The kids were all well-behaved and I think they all had fun.

I baked a cake and took it to her summer camp in the morning, she received multiple gifts throughout the day, the party was good, the food was tasty, there were loads of balloons, the cake we ordered was great, what else can anyone ask for? We got her a toy kitchen and Mummy got her a tiny doll house. The other gifts were also great – she got soft toys, puzzles, play doh, a train set, tea sets, clothes. We spent the next 2 days sorting out through her stuff and now have 2 big bags of toys and one bag of clothes to donate.

What touched me the most was that both my maids got gifts for her. It was totally unexpected and I felt a bit guilty accepting gifts from them, but it also made me so happy. That the people who look after my daughter care for her so much. When her ‘Didi’ was leaving after the party, Anna clung to her and cried and didn’t want her to go even though I was there. I think I can stop worrying about whether Anna is happy or not with the maid and whether she looks after her or not. Anna’s clinging to her is testimonial enough for me.

Playing with her doll house.

Friends.

Ready to party. The baby in the background is my cousin S’s baby. It was her 10th week birthday too.

Tweety pie!

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Long time…

no see. I kept feeling guilty about letting the days pass without writing about Anna here but was not able to shake off the lethargy. Plus nothing much has been happening. Anna says and does a lot of new things but we have now become so used to her talking like a five year old that we take it for granted. Plus work has been a bit hectic and that’s my biggest excuse.

Anyway there is no way I can remember and write down all that has been happening so will just jot down the things I can recollect now. Anna is talking up a storm. She talks in full sentences with mostly correct grammar. She mostly talks/understands Hindi but I have a suspicion that she knows a bit of English too. In any case most of the nursery rhymes she recites are in English. She is slowly learning to actually recognize the alphabets and not just recite them like any other song. She has a board game in which all the alphabets fit into slots which have a corresponding picture painted on them. Yesterday she was playing with it with R and we both got a shock when she picked up the G and said ‘Yeh grapes mein jayega’. She did the same with a few more as well.

Anna has been super-excited about her upcoming birthday for some time now. She keeps saying ‘Anna ka birthday aa raha hai’. One day she also said that ‘Anna ko gift milega’. I really don’t know where she picked up that concept from. We’d gone on a vacation to both our places a few days ago. My mom told Anna that she would buy her a toy laptop for her birthday. A few hours later I told her to come and put on her sandals since we were going shopping. She immediately said ‘Anna ka laptop lene ja rahe hain’. We had to somehow convince her that she would get the laptop only on her birthday. Now another line has been added to her birthday chant – ‘Anna ko laptop milega’.

We were buying some clothes for her and I wanted her to try on a skirt before buying it. She tells me ‘Pehle billing kara lo’. Another day she was randomly counting something on her fingers. She is usually very random with counting, she knows the numbers till almost 20 but that’s it. But that day when she reached 6 she switched to the other hand!

We have put her in a new play school. I was very happy with her old one and Anna was also very happy going there but they closed their toddler program and now only have a full day daycare. She started day before yesterday and howled like anything. Yesterday was thankfully better and she didn’t cry so much. In the morning while leaving for office, I told her ‘Acche so school jaana. Rona nahi’. R was also leaving at the same time and said bye to her. To which she said ‘Papa acche se office jaana. Rona nahi’. There are multiple incidents like these each day. Talking to her is so much fun. We never know what she will say and are constantly amazed by the things she knows. I am one proud mommy and this is one place I am not scared to show it. I truly think she talks and thinks and understands a lot more than is average for her age.

Health wise things are okay. She’d been coughing a lot before we went for our vacation. Now she’s much better. All doctor’s we’ve consulted have said it’s most probably allergic and will go away in a few years. There’s nothing we can do. Added to the cough, Anna has started to suffer from motion sickness as well. So sometimes it seems as if we are living in a sea of puke. She often pukes in the car and again doctors say that it should go away in a few years and there is nothing we can do.

Potty training is still not progressing. It’s mostly our fault for not being consistent enough. Mummy is planning to come over for a few weeks for Anna’s birthday next month and I plan to totally focus and use that time.

Will upload a few pics of the vacation once we get around to transferring them from the camera.

ETA: I just realised that I completed one year of blogging in March! I don’t even have a single post in March this year. Well, never mind. Happy Birthday Blog! You have been so good to me :) .

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Facebook

I have put up some status messages about Anna on facebook in the last almost 2 years. I just realised that I should put them here so that they don’t get lost.

21.02.2012
Me: Anna tum shaadi karogi?
Anna: Karegi.
Me: Kisse karogi?
Anna: Mautaji (mausaji) se.
A pause then, Shaam ko karegi.
M, atleast there is one girl who is always ready to marry you :)

13.02.2012
Attended Anna’s first annual day on Saturday. She was in a group of the littlest ones who danced to ‘Jungle Jungle Baat Chali Hai’. I can’t believe that I attended my ‘daughter’s’ annual day. Wasn’t I performing in one just yesterday? Weren’t my parents the ones sitting there watching proudly?

07.02.2012
Yesterday evening, Anna in a naughty mood.
R: Anna (very sternly)
Anna: Anna (also very sternly)
Then she laughs and says
Anu darr gayi.
We need to ramp up our disciplining skills fast!

09.01.2012
Today morning – I was having breakfast.
Anna: Mumma paper padhaegi.
Me: Mumma nashta kar rahi hai. Didi padhaegi.
Anna: Mumma office ja rahi hai? (accompanied by a very tearful face)
Broke my heart into a million pieces.

25.11.2011
For R’s birthday yesterday, I baked him a cake and gifted him the complete Asterix collection. Anna gave him a kiss and sang her version of the Happy Birthday song. R tells me that I am the second sweetest person in the world. Sometimes it’s good to be second :) .

16.11.2011
Anna is now 18! Months ofcourse :) .

10.11.2011
Today morning…
Me: Anna, Papa Mumma ko kaise bulata hai?
Anna: <my name> come!
Me: Aur Mumma Papa ko kaise bulati hai?
Anna: Ravan come!
Does she know something I don’t?

08.11.2011
Me: (showing Anna a photo of the new Miss World) Yeh kaun hai?
Anna: Aunty
Me: Aunty sundar sundar?
Anna: Mumma chundar chundar
Great start to my day :)

06.07.2011
Me: Anna tum kahan jaati ho? School?
Anna: Aaphish
Me: Nahi Aaphish to Mummy Papa jaate hain. Tum school jaati ho.
Anna: Aaphish
Oh well. Naya zamana hai. Who says one year olds can’t go to office.

17.06.2011
Nani: Anna Mumma kahan gayi thi?
Anna: Aaphish
It’s so cute :)

18.05.2011
I am now officially the mother of a toddler. Where did my baby go?

12.04.2011
She’s WALKING!!! :)

27.01.2011
Anna: some gibberish…babagagaga etc
R: Anna say papa
Anna: mamamama
R: papapapapa
Anna: mamamamama
Me: :) :):):):)

20.12.2010
word of the day: bababababababa

30.11.2010
pink t-shirt, pink leggings and a blue pinafore – that’s what cuteness wears :)

25.08.2011
i just realised….my baby is more than a 100 days old :O

17.07.2011
mere ghar aayi ek nanhi pari :)

 

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The last year …

of my twenties.

It was my birthday last week. On the fifteenth to be precise. The last birthday of my twenties. Oh well, time flies and all that jazz. I had a lovely day. Anna, as is now expected, wished me many times in the day, sang happy birthday on demand, and always replied with ‘Mumma’ on being asked whose birthday it was. I had a release in office on my birthday of all days and reached home an hour late, but somehow it didn’t upset me. Maybe it’s the approaching thirties.

Every year for my birthday, R makes me buy the gift myself. He’ll take me to the mall and I’ll pick out a nice dress and that’s it. We did the same this year, but I also demanded to be surprised. Like I always do for him. So he bought the gifts in advance and kept them in the office so that I wouldn’t find them, and then of course forgot to bring them home on fourteenth evening. (Digression alert: I never much liked Valentine’s day but now I have actually started disliking it because it messes up my birthday. No flowers or cakes available on fifteenth because all the love-sick puppies have bought them up the day before. Stupid Valentine’s day. Rant over.) Anyway once he realised he’d forgotten the gifts, he somehow managed to locate a flower seller still in business on Valentine’s day evening and got a bouquet for me. I obviously pouted and sulked but gave in after making him grovel for some time. Birthday privileges :) . I finally got the gifts after I reached home from office on my birthday and my darling boy did make me so happy. A potted plant, a set of nail-paints and the entire set of Harry Potter DVDs! I had not yet watched the Deathly Hallows movies, since they were released after Anna was born. Watched part I on Sunday and will watch part II in the next few days. Yeahhh :) .

Anna also turned twenty-one months old on my birthday. She keeps amazing us with her conversation all the time. The things she picks up, the inferences she makes, the things she says, I just feel so blessed to be the mother of such a smart little one :) .

 

 

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I Wish…Do You?

This is actually the name of one of Anna’s favourite books. The book belonged to me when I was around 5 and now it belongs to my daughter. I love being a mom :) .

Anyway what I want to write has nothing to do with the book. I generally drifted off during dinner yesterday and started thinking about wishes. Initially it was the usual about how good it would be if I could get three wishes. But then I remembered the movie, Bedazzled, and it got me thinking in a totally different direction. It made me realize that a wish could be the most dangerous thing in the world. I could think of nothing fool-proof to wish for.

First I thought I’d wish that Anna should always be happy. But one of the possible outcomes I imagined, was a bizarre and creepy child who is always smiling and laughing maniacally and is unaffected by suffering and pain of any kind. I quickly took back that wish. Then I thought of wishing for lots of money, enough to ensure a comfortable lifestyle without my having to work. But I couldn’t arrive at a figure. How much is enough? Plus I started imagining scenarios in which I get the money because I’m actually a part of the underworld and that went on to a very painful death. So scrap that too.

Then I thought that maybe if I’m unselfish and wish for the greater good of mankind, I’ll come up with something. So I decided to wish for an end to global warming and all it’s associated evils. But, of course there’s a but, one way to achieve this would be to simply take us back to the middle ages (I’m sure the wish-giver would have the power to do so), and I’m pretty sure that’s not a good thing. Another idea down the drain. Next I thought I’d wish for an end to violence and war, only to realize that violence and war would not be there if human beings cease to exist. My wish might have the small side effect of terminating human life completely.

I gave up after that. Dinner was already finished and cleared up but I was having so much fun that I barely realized what I was doing. Anyway, this is a totally random post. I just enjoyed the whole thing so much yesterday, that I wanted to put it down here.

What about you? If you had a wish, what would you wish for? Would you be sure that it could not be misinterpreted in a totally bizarre way?

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Twenty Months Old

My Baby,

My beautiful, naughty, adorable, gorgeous little baby. Will you ever know how much I love you? Maybe only when you have a little one of your own. But it doesn’t matter that you might never realise how my heart almost bursts from loving you, that I love you more every day, that I think you are the smartest, cutest and most gorgeous baby ever! Just keep on being as naughty and adorable as ever and I am happy.

You are such a chatterbox. You start off as soon as you are up for the day and keep talking till I firmly thrust the bottle’s nipple into your mouth while putting you to sleep at night. Even after your bottle is finished, you manage to get in a few words before you fall asleep. You are talking in full sentences and everyone is amazed at how much and how well you talk. You almost always talk sense and the days of babbling are long gone. We sometimes get a bit overwhelmed by the running commentary and long for some peace and quiet, only to start missing the chatter as soon as you fall asleep. A few examples of your non-stop chatter – 1) As soon as you get up : Papa bathroom jayega. Papa bathroom se aake dudhu pilayega Anna ko. You repeat this non-stop till Papa doesn’t come out of the bathroom and take you out for your bottle. 2) While massaging you for your bath : Yeh ganda hai (pointing to your night-suit), Manori Aunty saaf karegi. Yeh saaf hai (pointing to your fresh clothes), Anna pahnegi, Anna frock pehnegi, yada yada yada. 3) In the evening on the way to the park – Digging karegi Anna, octupus banaegi Anna etc etc etc. You talk non-stop and we are amazed at how accurate your grammar is. You correctly use the male of female pronouns and verbs, you now know so many words that it is pointless counting them. In fact you have progressed far beyond mere words to actual language now. You know counting up to ten and I have heard a thirteen, fourteen too occasionally. Only you know how many nursery rhymes you know and constantly surprise me by reciting a new one. You can recite most of the ABC song correctly. You recognize shapes like square, triangle, star, heart, circle, cross and also colours like red, blue, green, yellow, purple, pink, orange, white. You have long conversations with your friends on the phone. You sing Happy Birthday to you multiple times a day.

You demand food which you like. You love poha, upma and cheese toast for breakfast. You like chicken but are still iffy about eggs. Chocolates are your favourite though your cruel parents don’t let you have much. You are very specific about which biscuit you want to eat and won’t accept any other. You still love juice and milk but are very reluctant about fruits. You are mostly good about eating, though you don’t eat much and I am just grateful that you eat your roti-subzi and chawal-daal without a fuss. You are getting more and more independent and want to eat ‘aape aape’. You are good at eating dry stuff with your hands but the spoon-work needs loads of practice still. You want to drink water from a normal cup and one of your favourite games is to pour a few drops from your sipper into a cup and then drink it. This can keep you occupied for up to half an hour.

You are showing an interest in clothes and immediately come running when I bring your clothes to change you. You refuse to let me make you wear your shoes (the ones you wear to daycare) and always insist that I take out the sandals (the ones you wear to the park).

You love music and love to dance. The other day we had switched on the TV and the song ‘Dum Maaro Dum’ was playing. You immediately started singing ‘Jump Maaro Jump’ and started jumping. You sadly are extremely fond of item songs and pick them up in just one go. ‘Chikni Chameli’ is the latest and your taste in music mortifies me to no end. Thankfully you are also fond of nursery rhymes and children’s classics like ‘Lakdi ki kathi’ and ‘Nani teri morni’.

You love going out for ‘ghummi’ and meeting your Mausas and Mausis and Mama and Mami. You recognize all of them and keep asking about them all the time. You have learnt how to pick the weakest link and charm him/her into giving you what you want.

The past month hasn’t been good in terms of your health. You had a bad bout of viral and were sick for around 10 days. You were a real trouper in taking your medicines – no matter how bad the taste, you would screw up your little face and accept sip after sip without complaint and without spitting it out. You somehow knew that taking the medicine is important, and though you wouldn’t eat even a bite of food, you’d take your medicines each time. We are so proud of you for that. After the viral, you again got fever and we were at our wit’s end. Thankfully it was only for a day and you’re fine now though you do have a cough and cold.

Potty training is at a complete stand-still. You love sitting on your potty seat and reading your potty book (Once upon a potty), but it’s just a game for you. You have peed in your potty only twice. If I try to take you to the potty when you’re pooping you refuse and start crying. Only to demand to be taken there once you’re done. We’ve decided to let it go for a few weeks and try again later. It does worry me a bit, but I’m trying not to.

Twenty months gone by. Four more till your second birthday. It seems just like yesterday that I was all excited about your first birthday. I still think of you as one and a few months old, but before I know it you’ll be two. You’ll be getting two new cousins this year, one in March (my cousin S’s baby) and one in July (my brother and his wife are expecting a baby – yeahhhhh). You’ll be a big sister. My itty-bitty baby, a big sister. Sniff sniff.

Love you to bits.                                                                                                                          Mumma

Wearing Mumma’s top

Reading the ‘new’paper

Digging!

 

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Bad Bad December

It’s been quite a long time since my last post. There were so many things I wanted to write about, but somehow there was either no time or when I actually had time, I didn’t want to write.

Anyway, moving on, I am so so glad that December is over. It seemed as if everything that could go wrong, did so.

First of all Anna fell sick. It started with a cough that just wouldn’t go away. Then fever. We took her to her doctor, who prescribed cold medicines and crocin but advised against starting an antibiotic. We kept giving her crocin every 5-6 hours but the fever just wouldn’t stay down. 3-4 days later we again took her to the doctor. She again said that don’t give antibiotics yet. Meanwhile Anna had stopped eating, she would sleep only in my lap, she wouldn’t play, she was unbelievably cranky and almost drove both of us crazy. Finally another 4 days after we took her to the doctor the second time, we started the antibiotic. She almost miraculously recovered in 2 days. She ate and slept and played and cried much less. Oh the bliss! I’m still feeling very guilty and pissed off about the way we and the doctor handled the whole thing. I don’t blame the doctor completely because we are also very wary of giving her medicines. But this time I think we went too far. I’ve learned my lesson and now if ever the fever crosses day 3, in the medicine goes.

My parents were supposed to come over for a visit in mid December. There was some trouble at dad’s workplace and they postponed it to end December, only to indefinitely postpone it again. Gah.

The maid who looks after my daughter has an infected piercing in one ear which she needs to get treated. We gave her off almost the whole of last week of December to get it fixed, but of course it didn’t happen. She kept running around the hospital and the doctors kept calling her again and again but the procedure is yet to be done.

Then something happened which almost completely shattered me, my belief in who I am as a person, as a mother. We took a decision that I never though we could. I have never hurt so badly in my life and hope I never do again. What happened had nothing to do with Anna, thankfully.

Anna will be 20 months old on the 15th. A post on that coming up soon.

And oh yes, Happy New Year everyone :) .

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At the park.

Two incidents happened which I want to write about.

A little girl (I guess around 4-5) was being pushed on the swing by her maid. I didn’t see exactly what happened but she fell and started crying. When she didn’t quieten down after sometime I went to see if I could help. Anna was with me of course. She was so concerned and kept saying ‘Didi ro rai’ and was almost in tears herself. I told her that Didi fell from the swing and got hurt. After which she kept saying ‘Didi ro rai’ and “Didi chotu’ again and again. When the crying didn’t stop even after sometime she came and clung to me. Finally the little girl quietened down and went home. Anna kept asking about her for the rest of the evening. I was so touched to see how upset she got by someone else crying. Even at home if she ever hears some kid crying or screaming from another apartment she always asks ‘Baby ro raha?’ and wants baby to quieten down, ‘Baby chup’. I have to reassure her that baby is okay and baby’s mumma will take care of him/her. I hope she never loses this empathy.

The second incident was not a pleasant one. Another little girl of around 3 comes to the park with her mother. I noticed her screaming a few days ago because she wanted that when she was on the slide no other child should even try to climb on it. Her mother was trying to make her calm down. Yesterday I noticed her again when she was screaming to her mother to keep holding her sand toys lest some other kid take them. Later she started playing with those toys. A little boy tried to pick one up but she screamed and his mom dragged him away. Sometime later Anna got down from the slide and before I could stop her she picked up one toy. The girl started shrieking so loudly that for a second I was stunned. Anna immediately dropped the toy and ran to me. She didn’t cry but she was very upset. We left the park (it was already almost time to leave) and she didn’t let go till we reached home.

I was pretty upset and I’m still not sure how to feel about the whole thing. Sure some kids are possessive about their toys, but this seemed a bit extreme, or not, I’m not sure. Kids in the park play with each others’ toys all the time. Some don’t mind, some do, but I have never seen anyone screaming so loudly before. Anna always wants to play with other kids’ toys no matter how many of her’s I take along. It’s mostly okay and there are a lot of kids who play with her toys. If the other baby protests I always try to distract Anna and make her pick up something else. She herself mostly never minds if others take her things. If she does want something which someone else is playing with, I tell her to let the baby play and to play with something else. I want her to share. And till now it’s been easy because she doesn’t mind. If later she does mind I’m not exactly sure what I’ll do, but I’ll still keep trying to make her share. Most other mom’s I’ve seen do that too. But when she’s a little older how will I tell her to share but not to expect others to share? I don’t want her to be selfish, but as I’ve mentioned before, I don’t want others to take advantage of her either. I know I’m getting ahead of myself, but how will I ever explain to her that virtue (be it being polite, or sharing, or helping) is it’s own reward, when all around she will see kids and adults being the exact opposite and seemingly benefiting from it? Even I have trouble believing it myself sometimes. Sometimes I think that these qualities were valued in the past but today they’re redundant and maybe I’ll be doing my daughter a disservice by teaching them to her. But I just can’t tolerate a rude or selfish child or person so I know that I will end up drilling into her the importance of being nice and courteous at all times. I just hope that the importance of standing up for one’s self and not being meek in the face of injustice, in the name of manners, is also equally imbibed by her. Because no one’s going to put my baby in a corner. Ever.

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Potty training – Update 1

Anna peed in the toilet for the first time yesterday! I got so over-excited that R had to tell me to calm down. So much ado for a little bit of pee! But I was and am super excited. We started making her sit on the pot (with the little potty seat attached) about a week ago. First with her pajamas and diaper on and then bare-bottomed. We would make her sit at the time she usually poops (after her morning bottle), but though she was happy to sit there and didn’t protest at all (something I was worried would happen), she wouldn’t produce anything. Yesterday we made her sit as soon as she got up from her afternoon nap and made loads of shushing sounds (we also turned on the tap) and she did it! I know this is just the beginning and we have a way to go yet, but she did it, she did it, she did it. Okay, that’s out of my system now.

I’m not sure how ready she is for full training yet, and how fast it will go, but I’m hoping that by the time she’s two she’ll be out of diapers. At least the day-time ones. The plan is to put her on the potty every morning as we are already doing. Then for this week I’ll try to make her sit as many times in the evening as I can to see if she is able to make the association between peeing and the toilet. Once she’s progressed a bit, I’ll ask the maid to do the same in the afternoon (specially just after her nap). Plus on the weekend I’ll try to let her remain diaperless as much as possible.

It’s the next big milestone and I’m hoping we’ll reach it without any major meltdowns or hiccups. Though right now I’m not even able to imagine life without diapers.

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